A Letter to Her
I’ve never understood the honor of cutting umbilical cords, its quite gross if you think about it. But nevertheless, Jon had the “honor” of cutting the umbilical cords of all our babies. Except one. As soon as we found out that our second was a boy, I knew I wanted to be the one to cut the cord. It was a symbolic gesture for me, a way of reminding myself that when the time comes that since I’ve cut the umbilical cord once, I can do it again.
I pray for each my children’s future spouses. From the moment we found out we were expecting, I started praying for the person who would share their life. And as we added daughter after daughter, I started praying most fervently for Hudson’s future wife. She will have to be a brave woman, that is for sure. Loving a man with three sisters is most surely going be a challenge and I already feel sorry for the women that will be put through the wringer. But the one that survives, she will be brave. I’m sure of it.
When I found out Hudson was on his way, I started a list of promises to myself, to Hudson, and to his future wife. Promises that will be difficult for me to consistently keep, but I wanted a starting point to be the best mother-in-law possible. So without further ado…
Dear Future Daughter-in-Law,
I imagine that someday I’ll print out this letter and wrap it with the rest of your bridal shower gifts. I hope you take this with the loving intention that its meant. I realize that I won’t always be able to keep these promises, but this is a sampling of my intentions as we move into this next phase of our relationship. We are welcoming you with open arms, because we know how much our son loves you and if Hudson has chosen you, then you are the answer to our prayers.
I don’t want to be the other woman in Hudson’s life. I want you to have the sole role of being the one and only woman in his life; I hope to play a supporting role. And I hope that you feel loved and supported in the years to come.
I once heard that its not enough to make a list of things you won’t do, but substitute do’s for the don’ts. This is a work in progress, but I feel it’s a great start. I know that to be a good mother-in-law someday, I’m going to have to be intentional with these relationships. I intend to do just that.
While I know that someday I’ll be replaced by another woman in Hudson’s life, I am currently loving my cuddly, tender, and sensitive little man. I love being his first crush, his first love, his whole world, and the recipient of the picked dandelions. I’m going to soak it all in while I can and relish every moment.