This One’s a Game Changer

Saturday, November 19, 2011 11 Comments A+ a-

I don't know why this birthday feels so different from the rest.  But it does.  Perhaps its the fact that she's in first grade now.  Perhaps its just that seven sounds so old.  Perhaps that she's finally "getting" reading or that she's excelling in math.  Perhaps I never imagined her at this age... as an infant, toddler, preschooler, a kindergartener was easy, I never pictured the schoolgirl.  Perhaps its that parenting has gotten infinitely more complex.  I used to have all the answers, it was so very black and white.  And now there's gray, and varying shades of gray at that.  That's another post for another day.

Regardless, I'm not the only one feeling the difference this birthday.  Jon showed up after plowing all night with flowers for the birthday girl.  I was floored, overwhelmed that my husband did this of his own effort.  And when I pushed him on the why, he responded that first grade seems like a good time to start this tradition.  He wants to be the first man to give his daughters flowers.  (Yes, my heart melted into a puddle on the floor and I fell madly in love with my man again.)

It touched my girl, in a way that only other females will understand. She giggled and twirled, and helped put them in water. The fact that she gave him a sticker, proclaiming him the world's best dad, speaks for itself.

She and I headed out for a lunch date. Just the two of us. She beamed when I told her no siblings were coming with us.  And as enjoyed our Olive Garden salad and breadsticks, I was once again awed by how much I enjoy being with her.  Not because I have to or because she’s mine, but because of who she is.  She makes me laugh, she makes me think, and she makes me want to be a better person.

Let me tell more about this girl we’re celebrating today…

  • When asked what she wanted for her birthday, she brought up these Hearts4Hearts dolls.  Her reason for wanting these particular dolls?  Because a portion of the proceeds go to “help other girls in those countries.”  Her words, not mine.
  • She and I have theological discussions often, and she GETS it.  The girl understands more than I was ever able to comprehend at her age.  Heck, she knows more than I did in my early teens.
  • As she and I discussed what she was looking forward to the most on her birthday, she replied that she couldn’t wait to open gifts.  And after a brief pause, leaned forward, “Mama, if I get a new coat, can we give it away to someone else who needs it more?”  (Verbatim.)
  • Her favorite excuse for doing something she knows she’s not supposed to do?  “I’m sorry. I just forgot for a minute.” Right.
  • She loves numbers so much that she pulls out her math homework as soon as she gets home on Friday afternoons.  And we play calculation/calculator games in the car.
  • She is sensitive and silly… loving… a dancing fool… wise beyond her years… compassionate and giving… sweet… dramatic (to a fault)… selfless… and beautiful, inside and out.  1321744515457

Baby girl, seven years ago, you came into our lives and turned it upside down.  You are still taking my breath away with your thoughtfulness, your insights, and your selflessness.  It is an absolute honor to be your mother.  Hope your birthday is as special as you are!

I’m a coffee drinking, book reading, laundry procrastinating, husband and children loving, mess of a woman who believes that chips and salsa can fix anything. We have chickens running around the backyard, a mountain of dishes in the sink, and on any given morning, I have at least 10 school forms that need my signature or initials. It’s a crazy life {I prefer to call it controlled chaos}, but its ours.

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Meghan
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11:40 PM delete

Happy Birthday Devyn!

& my daddy was the first person to give me flowers too!

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Momof4Girls
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12:45 AM delete

Oh! How our Devyn is growing up!!! =( What a beautiful 7th birthday for her! She melts my heart too! Her heart is so pure and she wants to love God and others SOOO MUCH!! =) She truly IS wise beyond her years, and so unselfish....she teaches me much...
I love you, Devyn Paige.
Nana

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7:04 AM delete

Oh, this made me cry!!! I so wish y'all lived closer. I'm pretty sure that McK and Devyn would be the best of friends... And so would you and I. Also? She shares my middle name and I love that :-)

Happy Birthday to your sweet girl!!

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9:11 AM delete

Happy birthday to your beautiful 7 year old!!!
I love how giving and kind she seems... she has beautiful parents who have taught her all that she knows!!!
Time flies, but what an amazing little person you guys are raising!

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9:42 AM delete

This is so so so sweet!! I hope Justin does that sort of thing for M when she gets older!!

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Kelsey
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10:19 AM delete

Devyn blew me away when she made that comment about the Hearts4Hearts dolls a few weekends ago. What a kind and gentle-spirited daughter you have! Happy Birthday, sweet girl!

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Vicki
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10:33 AM delete

Happy Birthday Devyn! What a beautiful girl she is growing up to be both inside & out!

And I love that her daddy wanted to be the firs man to give her flowers! Too cute!

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pedro
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12:54 PM delete

I can't fathom what it will be like to be the father of a seven-year-old daughter. Anna already seems so grown up as she's turning four. I may have to steal a page from Jon's book and start with the bouquet when Anna's in grade school.

You should send Devyn down to my mom's for a three day math camp thi summer. They'd both have a blast.

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TaraR
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1:33 PM delete

What a sweet, sweet post! Your little one sounds adorable! Birthdays have always been a big deal in my family and what a perfect tradition to start with her. And what a blessed little girl to have to such a great mommy to lead, guide & teach her.

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Ashley
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7:20 PM delete

Such a sweet post! She is so precious!

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Christine
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10:34 PM delete

I loved the way you wrote this. Yes, our Devyn is special indeed. She has such a big heart and IS wise beyond her years. I can't believe she's 7 either. The years are flying by.

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