Searching for Peace

Tuesday, November 20, 2007 20 Comments A+ a-

It has been a teary, weepy couple of days. This is an email I sent to close family and friends today:
This is a hard email to write, because for the first time I'm actually writing out the words; I'm making an admission that I've tried to deny until now. So bear with me, I'm having a hard time with this.

Yesterday was Devyn's 3rd birthday and a visit to the doctor for her 3-year “well child” check-up. In good news, Devyn has gone through a major growth spurt this year. Last year at her 2-year check-up, she was in the 10th percentile for both weight and height. This year she is at the 50th percentile for both of those things. That is no surprise to Jon and me as we've gone through M-A-N-Y clothes this year; she's grown like a weed this past summer. So, praise God for that.

In other, not-so-great news, we're forced to admit that Devyn is seriously lacking in both verbal and social skills. At the doctor appointment, the doctor asked us how much of her vocabulary was understandable and we were forced to admit that only 20% of what she says we can understand. At this age, we should be able to understand about 70% of what she says. We believe her lack of vocabulary skills play into her lack of social skills too. Devyn has a hard time interacting with other children her age, preferring instead to either play by herself or playing "next" to kids, just not WITH them.

The doctor has decided to have a therapist do an evaluation on Devyn and that appointment is next week, on Wednesday. The therapist will spend time with Devyn, interacting with her, measuring her vocabulary, etc. for about an hour and we'll then discuss her findings and decide what she thinks will best benefit Devyn at this time. Please pray with me… for calm and peace through this time; that the therapist will not only find what is wrong with Devyn, but that they'll be able to unlock the speech that I know is in there; and that Devyn will flourish with this extra attention.

Thanks, my prayer warriors.
With love,
Jenn

More on Devyn's birthday party and the bittersweet feeling of watching her get older later this week.

I’m a coffee drinking, book reading, laundry procrastinating, husband and children loving, mess of a woman who believes that chips and salsa can fix anything. We have chickens running around the backyard, a mountain of dishes in the sink, and on any given morning, I have at least 10 school forms that need my signature or initials. It’s a crazy life {I prefer to call it controlled chaos}, but its ours.

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LPDraper
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3:33 PM delete

Praying with you today...

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3:34 PM delete

Jenn - I am COVERING you in prayer. Was this why you wrote the post about Hope - ????

I LOVE YOU!!!

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Susie
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6:49 PM delete

Jenn, dear one... You and your family are in my prayers.

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Jennisa
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6:56 PM delete

Thanks for sharing, Jenn. It's so hard when our children are lacking in any area...I know this. I will be praying for Devyn, and also for the therapist that she will get. I hope the outcome will be great, and that Devyn will get the help she needs, if she needs it....

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7:22 PM delete

Praying for you all!

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Katy
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I will be praying for you and your sweet Devyn. Just know that as I read what you wrote...i had a great feeling of peace about her. I really did. I think that sometimes kids just totally do things in their own time. I pray that is all that is going on with her and that there is nothing wrong! And no matter what happens....remember you are covered in prayer and always taken care of by a God that loves you more than we can all even imagine!

Remember...Albert Einstein didn't talk until age 4! ;) hugs to you all!!! xoxo

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Haley
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Oh Jenn... don't worry! She is a beautiful, smart and happy little girl! And don't feel like you are a bad mother or could have done anything different. She is fine and you are a wonderful mother!

<3 Haley A.

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Christina
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Jenn, I just wanted to let you know that I went through the
e-x-a-c-t same thing with Tyler, my oldest son.

His speech has been very very slow going and at his 3 year Dr appt the doctor suggested that we take him to a specialist. I decided not to.

He will be 4 in February and let me tell you in this year his speech has SKYROCKETED! It has really been amazing to see him progress so well on his own.
Now other people actually understand him too and not just me! :-)

I know therapy works for so many and I support you on this road and will pray for you. But sometimes kids follow their own timeline and do things when they are ready.

I just wanted to encourage you and let you know that you are not alone. ((HUGS))

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Amy
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Jenn-
My son Carson is 2.5 and at his 2 year appt I was forced to admit he had delay in his verbal communication. He wasn't talking AT ALL. Nothing. It was a hard thing to hear. I mean I stay home with him, I'm supposed to be teaching him these things. So, I looked at it as my fault. We were set up with an evaluation and eventually a speech therapist who came out once a week. I was very hesitant at first but it turned out to be such a great experience. She had different ways of working with him and teaching him and it was like a light turned on in his little head and he figured it out. Now he won't stop talking. So, don't beat yourself up over this. Every child progresses at their own stage and I'm sure little Devyn will be a talking fool in no time. I'll keep your whole family, especially Devyn, in my prayers.

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AndiMae
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Hey sweet friend, I am definitely praying for you, Jon, and your sweet girl. I can't imagine all of the emotions you must be feeling right now, but I know that it must be really hard. I will continue to pray for peace and that the Lord will give everyone involved in Devyn's care wisdom!

xoxo Andi

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Just Me
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Praying for you and your family. Covering this situation in prayer. God is faithful. Hold to His Word and let His peace envelope you during this time.

Much love
Mary

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4:24 PM delete

Praying for you all and especially Devyn.....

Love and Prayers,

Julie

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pedro
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9:55 PM delete

Our hearts and prayers are with you guys.

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Jenn
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9:58 PM delete

Just wanted to add that you and Devyn are in my thoughts. I'm sure that everything will turn out fine. This is something that is fixable.

Jenn

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Oldqueen44
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Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family. I have enjoyed this first year of blogging and dropping by yours from time to time. So on this wonderful Thanksgiving day, I give thanks for you as one of my many blessings.

Concerning Devyn...
One of our grand kids was slow to talk and really struggled in school. There was some kind of total disconnect between what went in and what was not able to come back out. We thought for sure she would never be able to read. When she got in the second grade she either had one awesome teacher or whatever was disconnected got hooked up. She is now 11 and actually at the top of her class in reading and language skills.

On the other hand we have a little guy that is autistic. He started showing regression around 2.5 - 3yrs. He lives in his own world most of the time. There are times when he wants you to play with him though. At those times he is very funny. drcarley.com is a site that has interesting opinions about autism.

Hang in there Mom... Don't hide behind denial. You may be in the midst of the most opportune time to help your child in the most critical way. Be her best advocate.
Many blessings to you.

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Liz
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Oh Jen, I am covering you and sweet Devyn in prayer. Thanks for sharing your heart with us.

I pray that you can cling to the hope we have in Christ, in those days that seem hard.

Love,
Liz

"You will keep in perfect peace
him whose mind is steadfast, because he trusts in you." Is 26:3

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8:59 PM delete

(((Jenn))) I will be praying for you as you wait ...

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3:55 AM delete

Dear Jen

I am here for you and your lovely family.

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Melody
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I'll be praying for you, the family and your daughter during this difficult time.

~*Melody*~

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Wendy
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6:52 AM delete

My nephew had a very similar problem and now a year later you would never know he had any trouble in either of these areas. He ended up just being slower than others.

I think you are doing the right thing.

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